When You Are The Wayward Child {Fear Of Judgement--Day4}

I am the wayward child. I've been more the prodigal than the good, obedient one. I still dream of that cigarette, years after putting them down. I drink a glass of wine in the evenings, something some church members would frown upon. I'm not good at prayer, although for many disillusioned years I ardently tried to work it out on my knees, for hours at a time.

I love rock and hip-hop, which makes me an immature Christian at best, on a pathway for hell at worst--I know, because I listened as a child to preachers spew it as they yelled, so much angst inside, so much fear. I was raised by parents who thought that way too. But they feel differently now. They see grace, I think.

All of those things--the type of music I like, my lack of ability to pray well--those are just outward things, mere technicalities that don't really matter.

God is concerned about my heart.

And my heart has been wayward. It so easily strays, looks in the trash for food, instead of dining at the Master's table. I'm a lost child, calloused and dirty from surviving these mean streets. 

I peer in, watch through glass windows, wishing I was welcomed out of the cold, into the warmth. But at every turn, it seems I'm met with cold pity and disdain for my dirty ragedness. No one wants to sit with me, dine with me as Jesus did with sinners.

Jesus reclined at the tables of the thief and the pharisee, those so unworthy--he was at home with sinners. 

And how thankful I am for that--because this body of death betrays His spirit within, and I am a wretch. There were times I wanted to die, yet He has made me alive--alive to Him. I cling to Him, the only thing that saves, not my Sunday dress, or my attendance, or even my lack of drink or bars visited.

And he let her wash his feet with expensive perfume, such an intimate act--the despised one, the dirty, filthy whore, the one no one wanted to touch, unless he was an unrighteous man, a man rejected, a man condemned, although Jesus said they had the same sinful thoughts, just by looking at her.

And I, this lost child that can never seem to get it right--I think I understand her just a little.

I wonder if they realize we're all just beggars at his table? The ones that judge and condemn--do they really know? The ones that look down from their lofty statuses and talk of never having had a drop their whole life--if they believe it's true--what they preach--why don't they live it?

The ones that in their Sunday suits, scoff at those "new, immature" Christians who don't know any better and go into the bars to minister to those who need Jesus? Do they know Jesus when they scoff at something Jesus himself would have done?

Wasn't Jesus always trying to teach his disciples to exactly mirror him?

They sneer in holy indignation, he will just be dragged down into sin with the rest of them--he hasn't experienced true Christianity--he's on a road to hell by going into those joints.

I submit that when we go to those places Jesus himself would have gone, and we touch the dirty and the unforgiven, the prodigals and the railing-against-God-ones, that is when we are close enough to know His holy breath.

I've really just ceased having the ability to pretend, pretend that I'm a loving, humble Christian who doesn't drink and doesn't ever yell at her kids, and only, and always wears the right-length dress to church.

The great thing about knowing I'm a prodigal, just a beggar at his table? I get to be the one closest to God's heart, the one he calls a party for, the one he cloaks in his robe, the one to receive his ring and his favor, his embrace. 

And though I've squandered the inheritance, he looks at me through eyes of grace, laughs a deep, fatherly laugh at my child-confusion, and tells me Child, you can't squander it because it never runs out.

And, ah, I break and the wild, raging rivers of self-hatred and self-doubt and condemnation all damned-up breaks free and His grace works, because I never, ever want to disappoint my Father. I want to always, always be in His embrace, here at his table.

We are all--thieves, beggars, whores, pharisees, and agoraphobic moms who shut themselves up in their rooms--we're all just prodigals trying to find our way home. We've only to realize it and embrace it, to let go of our fears and stop judging.

Let's not cast any stone. Let us help walk one another home.

Gratitude: {#997-1006}

Celebrating 1,000 gifts--I never thought I would finish the race, but I have done it, and don't plan on ever stopping giving thanks--it helps me rightly see!!!

I'm grateful for a Father that takes me over and over, for campfires outside with my kids and husband, for warm Ghiardelli hot cocoa, for smores melted over a fire, for beautiful pumpkins and mums, for butternut squash baked with brown sugar, cinnamon, and butter, for cool nights that mean cuddling, for my baby saying some new words--hallelujah!

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Ann, Emily , Laura, Jen, & Michelle.

Linking up with The Nester, and all the other 31-Dayers....This ought to be one wild, brave ride...

Do you struggle with fear of judgement, friend? Does it hold you hostage? What's your story? How has God redeemed it? Have you found grace? Your comments so encourage me. I draw strength from your kind words and knowing you were here. My faith walk is seasoned with the right ingredients when you hang around...

This is Day 3 of 31 days of Fear. Since I'm starting my Day 1 a little late, my "31 Days" will not have 31 posts. I have chosen to do this one on FEAR, because it seems to be something I keep wrestling with over and over, something that keeps me in chains, pins me down, won't let me free. I hope you will come with me on this journey--to get a taste of glorious redemption as I soul-search and look for Jesus smack-dab in the middle of my fears. And Jesus sits with sinners. I won't have to look very far. Couldn't we all use some freedom from those fear-chains that bind? I pray God gives me the strength and the courage to complete 31 days--y'all, it's going to be hard on this 'ol gal to write every.single.day. Pray for me? You can find the entire 31 Day collective here <---hover with mouse to highlight and click 

Friends, If you would so kindly click here and go over to my friend, Jennifer's site for a giveaway--her sweet daughter, Lydia, is having a jewelry party to raise money for a school playground for children in Haiti. We know these children and families have been affected by much suffering after the earthquake. This jewelry is hand-made by our sisters in Haiti--Jennifer has been there, met them, hung out with them in their homes--and this is Jennifer's project. By buying one of these beautiful necklaces, you will be helping a Haitian woman work to feed her family, AND you will be helping raise money for children to have a place to play! She is also giving away some jewelry, so hurry on over and share on facebook, twitter, etc for your spot in the giveaway! I'm definitely buying one--I hope you do, too!


  1. thanks for getting at the heart of the matter... I love that line: "Child you can't squander it, because it never runs out."

  2. I can relate to so much of this. I judge those who judge more than anyone, which of course turns me into one of them. It's hard to pray, sometimes, for the haughty and lofty and better-than-thous. But, you know what? They are at least as broken as I am. Lots of love to you...

  3. So beautiful! Thank God we can never squander His grace or His love! I have felt like the black sheep/wayward child all too often, only to be welcomed in by Him.

    --Sherry (a fellow wine-drinking, secular music listening, cynical daughter who has been born anew in His love)

  4. So glad, Nacole, that you and I both get to eat at His banquet table together as sisters...We are all prodigals in the story of The Prodigal Son in Luke 15:11-32...the younger knew he was one, the older brother was one also, in his heart, but he didn't recognize it...yes, we are all in desperate need of His grace...hugs to you, sweet friend :)

  5. I love how the 'wayward" are anointed to point the way.You are beautiful,friend. And this prodigal is blessed to know you.

  6. This just makes my heart weep -- with compassion, familiarity, with remorse. For I have been judged and I have judged and what my soul cries out for is community in Christ. And we cannot be that if all we see is the outside.

  7. Beggars at His table...yep, that's me. Beautiful, vulnerable words here, Nacole. Oh, His grace is enough.

  8. I think you have a blessed perspective coming from the wanderings of a humble prodigal. It keeps your heart bent toward the Father, when I can be as the "proud but obedient son" and miss the true celebration of grace. Thanks so much for your authentic heart, Nacole. You are living a life that is honoring to Christ and I'm thankful to learn from you, friend.

  9. "Let's not cast any stone. Let us help walk one another home."
    Love, LOVE this!

    I often have 2 glasses of wine and once in a while the whole bottle!
    Apparently Jesus never minded a glass or two either :)

    1. ... dropping by from "Imperfect Prose" Here's my link :)


  10. You put words to my heart. I, too, was raised with a more-than-healthy dose of fright. At times it enveloped my thoughts, wondering if I'd ever be good enough. And when they were condemning my modesty standards, I was condemning their hypocrisy. I'm thankful God fills our hearts so full of love that we're willing to walk each other home.



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